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July 28, 2009

Wisdom to understand your man.... A reading

I am reading Debi Pearls book, "Created to be his Help Meet.." I am currently in chapter eight, which the title reads, "Wisdom to Understand your man." The side comment on the chapter states, " A wise woman learns to adapt to her husband." Wow

Anthony and I have been together a decade, and I can honestly say that to me previously, my thoughts were, "He is just so complicated, I don't understand him." When actually, the author goes on to describe generally three types of men. It stood out clear as day for me, Anthony is a Mr. Command Man... The authors states that these men are born with a great share of dominance, and are natural born leaders. The are great commanders, and their main goal is to get a job completed with precision, and often do more than is required of them.

Mr. command man is often known for expecting their wives to wait of them hand and foot, and more often they do not want their wives to be involved in projects that would interfere with taking care of them. They expect extreme loyalty, faithfulness, love and obedience. Often as the military perfects, a Command Man see's the bigger picture and strives to help the greater number. The needs of the many, outweigh the needs of the few.

The author goes on to say, that if a wife learns to enjoy the benefits of taking the second seat, and if she does not take offense to his headstrong aggressiveness, she will be the one sitting at his right side being adored, because this kind of man will totally adore his woman and exalt her. After all these years, I finally got it, Anthony treats me like a Queen, and there is nothing that I want, that I don't already have. Like I said before, he adores me and protects us all from any and all harm.

I dont understand why it took so many years for me to get this, the first few years, since I was a single mom, it seems like all we did was bump heads. I was too independent, and often did what was good for me, and not for the benefit of the family.

It is my hope and prayers for us as woman of the home, to get to know early on what makes our man tick, and what is relevent for maintaining your home in harmony. I have found out that there is really not any Titus 2 woman out there, that I have met that have been willing or able to guide me.. Most of the things I have learned, have been trial and error........

I hope that this can help others understand how to make their family run more peacefully..... Marriage is alot of work...but it is well worth the fight.


  1. Welcome to Newbieville! Your site is awesome!!!

  2. Every person has to be aware of who they are in order to be able to successfully chose her match.

    For a women as yourself that has been a single mom...a very strong protect and survival instinct takes over . I too have been a single mom of 4 and ran my own business to support them for 23 years. You want to talk about trying to crack this girls shell. I tend to scare off most men as they feel I am too much of a challenge or even threaten their masculinity in many ways.
    It is harder the longer a woman does have to take care of herself especially if she has children to soften up and be content being in the passengers seat.

    It is all about finding a respectful balance between each other that really makes a happy home :)

  3. Dorothy, you are so right. I think that with each stage in our life, we play different roles to ourselves, children.. and as things change, we do too. I remember being quite the opposite when it was just me and the kids, now after a decade of my new role in life, a wife... i see things differently as i did then.


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